In his Double Your Dating eBook, David Deangelo discusses the two biggest wuss indicators - neediness and insecurity. Each of these characteristics or you could even call them symptoms of wussiness will shrivel attraction up like salt on a slug.

A guy is “needy when he craves attention or recognition. He shows that he’s insecure when he ACTS on these needs” (David DeAngelo, Double Your Dating, pg 49). In the same avenue, a man shows insecurity when he displays tentative behavior, indecision, weakness or when he seeks approval and recognition from others.

Alpha male behavior – confidence, assertiveness, leadership – are always behaviors that attract women. On the other hand, wussy behaviors that men display are immediately sensed by women as well, and turn them off faster than a light switch. David DeAngelo gives a few pointers to men reading his Double Your Dating eBook, telling men exactly what some of those behaviors are.

One of the behaviors that turn women off instantly are unconcealed displays of anger, violence defensiveness and enmity. If you are one of those men who throw tantrums like a baby over something not going your way, – GROW UP. Do it now. You need to take a little bit of time and energy and find the source of your anger and get rid of it. There are few things less attractive to women (or anyone else you know) than juvenile, volatile anger. I have known this kind of anger to break otherwise great relationships – because it gets old fast.

Another example David DeAngelo gives of negative, non-alpha male behavior is talking about women you have been in previous relationships with, been intimate with with or hung out with in a negative manner. Or talking about anyone in a bad way. That does not mean that you have to give flowery renditions of all your previous paramours, but don’t bitch like an old woman about them either. If you don’t have anything nice or worthwhile to say, keep your mouth shut. Remember the Golden Rule (David DeAngelo style) it’s much sexier to seem quiet and mysterious than to open your mouth and prove you are a dumbass.

A third example that David DeAngelo gives is hanging all over a woman as well. Don’t hang all over a woman or be too physical – give her some space and let the attraction build rather than crowd her like an untrained puppy.

David DeAngelo also points out that ploys for attention are seen as VERY needy and insecure. DO NOT do things just to get attention. If you could possibly preface your action with “Hey! Look at ME!” – then don’t do it. Most people who do things like this don’t realize that people see through these childish actions – but they do – and like the boy who cried wolf – it really hurts your reputation as a person and especially as an alpha male.

Pushing decisions off on other people is another characteristic or action that David DeAngelo points out as a sign of insecurity. Quit asking people, “What do you think I should do” or “What do YOU want to do?” or “Do you think I should….” Make a decision, go with it and if she does not like it, she will let you know! And if she DOES let you know – don’t be apologetic, just say “Oh! Ok then!” Don’t drool all over yourself trying to apologize for an error in judgment that you could not possibly have foreseen.

One of the last characteristics of wussiness that David Deangelo discusses in Double Your Dating is the need that many men feel to ARGUE all the time. David DeAngelo says that “If you’re one of these people, just realize that this is a clear demonstration that you’re insecure and needy. You may always be right, but being overly argumentative is bad for your sex life. Deal with it. If you really want to argue with something, do it in a funny way and not in a serious way” (Double Your Dating, p 50).

So, in closing, one of the easiest things you can do to immediately double your dating and increase your success with women is to examine your life and your behaviors for these characteristics, and eradicate them when you find them.

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